Month: December 2020
Do You Remember How You Feel When…
Do you Remember?
Do the missing feelings and memories match?
When Tom spent time with Matthew, Alexandria, Theresa and John it was always amazing to watch as a person observing.
How a person makes you feel is permanantely etched upon your heart. So, search your heart and emotions for the times you spent with your Dad…
- How did you feel when you saw Daddy come to school for lunch?
- How did you feel when you saw your Daddy come and pick you up from school?
- How did you feel when your Dad came home from work and you jumped in his arms for a hug?
- How did you feel when your Dad told you funny stories about when he was a kid?
- How did you feel when your Daddy helped you with your homework?
- How did you feel when your Daddy made you dinner and you all ate together?
- How did you feel when your Dad took you to track practice, Swim meets, gymnastics and watched you perform the entire time?
- How did you feel when your Dad slow-motion play fight with you?
- How did you feel when your Dad wrestled, did tumbles and tricks on the livingroom floor with you?
- How did you feel when your Dad played with you on the park swings, monkey bars, and forts?
- How did you feel when your Dad built cushion forts with you in the livingroom?
- How did you feel when you had snowball fights with your Dad
- How did you feel when you helped your Dad with the yard work and rode in the tractor cart?
- How did you feel when you walked the trail with your Dad in the backyard, or went to the lake to swim with your Dad or went for Ice Cream runs or Smoothy runs with the golf-cart?
- How did you feel when your Daddy chaperoned your class for school fieldtrips?
- How did you feel when your Dad played games and made snacks and things for all to eat?
- How did you feel when Dad played with you outside on the scooters zipping down the driveway?
- How did you feel when your Dad helped you enjoy the magic around Christmas time with Santa coming to visit?
- How did you feel when your Dad tucked you into bed and read you stories or scratched your back or just laid down with you until you fell asleep?
- How did you feel when your Dad made you breakfast cheezy eggs or cinnamon buns?
- How did you feel when your Dad played cars, trains, tea party, barbie dolls, legos, puzzles, etc… with you?
- How did you feel when your Dad helped you make friends and play with other kids at the pool?
- How did you feel when your Dad threw you and your friends in the air in the pool?
- How did you feel when you went to the water park with your Dad and he went on all the slides with you?
- How did you feel when you went skiing for the first time with your Dad and then went to Colorado on the BIG montains with him?
- How did you feel when you sat with your Dad during movies or just watching TV and you cuddled together?
- How did you feel when you sled in the snow with your Dad in the yard?
- How did you feel going on outings and to the park with your Dad on the golf cart?
- How did you feel when you went out to dinner with your Dad and did magic tricks in the resturaunt with the crayons?
- How did you feel when you and your Dad shot the straw wrappers at each other at the table and laughed so hard?
- How did you feel when your Dad took you to the Daddy and Daughter dance for Valentines Day?
- How did you feel when you went out to dinner with your Dad for Valentines day?
- How did you feel when your Dad cooked you your favorite hamburger, hot dog, chicken wings for you and the family at home and at GranPa’s?
- How did you feel when you could fly on the plane with your Dad anywhere like visiting your Grandparents and Uncles and Aunts anytime you wanted?
- How did you feel when you went to Disney every year during Chriistmas with your Dad?
- How do you feel about your Dad now that you remember all these things?
- How do you feel when you’re told that your Dad cannot remember a time or event that was unhappy or bad with any of his children…not one moment or time? Even when you misbehaved and your Dad disciplined you with a time-out on the stairs or in your room…once everything calmed down we always knew we loved each other and we were always all safe together.
We sent Tom some questions and wanted to share them with all of you so you can see how Tom feels and thinks these days.
–Posted by Friends and Family of Thomas Zerbarini
Do you think your children want to talk to you?
Yes I do, I think they desperately want to talk to me. I believe they are starving for answers, for facts. I understand the position they’re in and how they must feel these days. It’s been so long since we’ve been able to talk and be together. I look forward to seeing them soon and hearing about how they think and feel about everything these days. I’m sure they have tons of good and maybe some not-so-good experiences they want to share with me. I look forward to hearing about all of them soon. I will tell Matthew, Alexandria, Theresa and John as much as they want to know about all my experiences as well.
We sent Tom some questions and wanted to share them with all of you so you can see how Tom feels and thinks these days.
–Posted by Friends and Family of Thomas Zerbarini
Merry Christmas 2020 Zerbarini Friends and Family!
We wanted to extend our warmest wishes and Merry Christmas to all this holiday season.
Tom is missing another Christnpmas without his children and we all want to share our prayers and love for Tom and Matthew, Alexandria, Theresa and John. Your father loves you so very much and we are all working very hard for you all to be reunited again.
How do you feel about the untrue “stories” your children have been told about you?
I understand I am the parent targeted and blamed for all things bad that my children are experiencing. I understand they have been told that something is broken in Daddy’s head, or that Daddy did bad things to “other girls.” I know that scared them, confused them and made them feel like they had to agree with the adult accusers. I’m especially concerned when others told them they need to be angry at Daddy now and if they didn’t they were not telling the truth. I know it hurt their heart and made them sick in their belly to think that Daddy was broken, bad and hurt others, it made me sick to hear those awful things too. I didn’t do those things, I never hurt or abused anyone, I’m not broken, and I’ve always been and continue to be a good safe person and Father. I understand that my children may think those things now and I would like to talk about how they feel and how they came to believe those things when they’re ready.
We sent Tom some questions and wanted to share them with all of you so you can see how Tom feels and thinks these days.
–Posted by Friends and Family of Thomas Zerbarini
Do you blame your children for what has happened to you?
No, it’s not their fault. I know what they must be going through and I know it has been difficult, it’s been really hard for me too. A lot of parents and kids are going through exactly what we are going through too; we are not alone and there are solutions and ways to heal and fix what has been taken from our lives. I don’t blame them for what has happened; none of this is their fault whatsoever. I love them so very much and nothing will ever change that–ever!
They Ambushed my Dad…
We sent Tom some questions and wanted to share them with all of you so you can see how Tom feels and thinks these days.
–Posted by Friends and Family of Thomas Zerbarini
What if your children feel trapped and can’t openly say they miss you or love you?
I understand that my children are trapped in a difficult situation. They may be ridiculed, teased, retaliated upon, bullied, not accepted, un-loved, and treated harshly in so many other negative ways if they merely hint that they miss or love me, their father. All I can say is that I understand and that they are again NOT ALONE! Many, many others have and continue to go through what we are experiencing. There is help and there is an end to all of this fighting and negativity. We will get there as long as we never give up in our hearts on each other. Uncle Doug and others have found many resources like Ryan Thomas on youtube and so many other competent resources and professionals that positively help fathers and their children in situations like ours.
We sent Tom some questions and wanted to share them with all of you so you can see how Tom feels and thinks these days.
–Posted by Friends and Family of Thomas Zerbarini…
How do you feel when you hear your children say you hurt their feelings?
It breaks my heart to hear them say that I made them sad and hurt their feelings; I was surprised to hear them say that. I’m glad that they were able to say that this is how they feel now. I’m sorry to hear my children say they are angry with me or I made them feel bad. I guess this is something we need to work on. I would love to hear how my children think we can work on these things sometime soon.
We sent Tom some questions and wanted to share them with all of you so you can see how Tom feels and thinks these days.
–Posted by Friends and Family of Thomas Zerbarini
How do you feel when you hear your children say you hurt them?
It breaks my heart to hear them say or think that I did bad things, or that I’m a bad daddy, or that I hurt them. That must really hurt their feelings to think that I did those things, I understand that they may think I did. I would like to talk to them about why they have come to believe those things, what we can do to make them feel better and be happy in our relationship.
We sent Tom some questions and wanted to share them with all of you so you can see how Tom feels and thinks these days.
–Posted by Friends and Family of Thomas Zerbarini
Do you still love your children?
YES, without a doubt! I will always love Matthew, Alexandria, Theresa and John. My love flows for them and to them from deep in my heart and soul always. There is nothing in this world that would change the fact that I love each of you so very much. I will always be here with “arms wide open” to accept them and love them–always!
We sent Tom some questions and wanted to share them with all of you so you can see how Tom feels and thinks these days.
–Posted by Friends and Family of Thomas Zerbarini.
Do you hate your children, are you angry with them?
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I could NEVER hate any of my children nor am I angry with them, I love them so much and want to be a part of their lives as the safe and good influence I am and have always been. I want to support my children in their dreams and their relationships with me and everyone in their life… I want them to know they are loved every day!
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